As a Dominant in life and style I am constantly in mind of my own
sexuality and need in relationship to my counterpart a submissive. As a
Women's Rights Activist for as long as I can remember, I am equally
aware that there is a huge disparity between men and women in society
and life. The roles defined and unfortunately accepted as norm at times
gives me cause to continue the dialogue and bring to the front the
abuses of society and the abuses that prevail in my life-style of
choice.
As a male, in society, be it education, career choices and
opportunity, rewards for a job well done, or public service attitude
and appreciation, the overall acceptance and development has been
generous and embracing for most of my life. It has not been without
difficulty and consideration as to the women who I have journeyed with
and who have not been afforded the same opportunity and equality. There
is and has been a discrimination and hindering of women in the work
place and at most levels of education throughout our society. The old
and outdated model of the woman staying at home to raise the children
and provide for her family in domestic duty is still embraced by many
and even hinted at in derogatory terms when the men's club is presented
with the threat of a woman who just might get ahead. The corner put
downs and snickers prevail even after a woman has succeeded and the
continued discrimination prevails. And this is just plain out not
accepted by this male and many of us who champion the role of women in
our society.
As a Dominant male in an alternative life-style of
choice, the discriminatory differences are harder to define and
certainly labeled in a very misguided way. A dominant and a submissive, a
top and bottom, a master and slave, a sir and sub. Seems easy enough,
one is in charge and the other just goes along with the flow. And the
unfortunate and sad part here is that many do subscribe to this. And
that is not accepted by this dominant. We have here two human beings
with a sensuality that has defined them as role oriented. My own
awareness on this is that before we are role oriented, we are human
beings, and as human beings we have a call to appreciation of that human
element before anything else. My own dominance is embraced by a
submissive and that submissiveness is embraced by me. If a submissive is
not comfortable and given voice, then I am the discriminate one. Much
like the women in our vanilla society, submissive women are again second
natured at times and can easily fall prey to abuse and even physical
harm with an uncaring and abusive dominant.
The one other area of
disparity is a women's right to choose to give birth. Of course our
governments have been trying to tether this issue from the start along
with the religious communities and pro-life advocates. Once again, the
woman is labeled and put in a class that takes away a basic freedom to
choose. Often a heartening decision based on a number of factors, rape, a
non supportive partner, drug and alcohol fetal syndromes and diseases
of life. Yet, a whole host of institutions and government have an
opinion and often a law to back up their right over the woman's.
So
there you have it. Women in society are still in many cases treated
unequal in education, career opportunities and compensation, the home,
and in relationship. And if she becomes pregnant and is in need of an
alternative, the unequal status-quo solutions are often the only avenues
to pursue. In the alternative life-styles that women are called to,
there are those issues just mentioned and the added stigma of undefined
roles along with misguided assumed identities and abusive assuming
partners. We need to speak up and more importantly champion the cause of
a women's right to choose for herself and be accepted by the male
equally in all areas of society.
Below are some resources that
call for change and call for equality for women in our society. There
are many more available on these websites and often many available in
our smaller communities as well.
National Organizational for Women
Feminist.com
Planned Parenthood
The National Safe Call Network for BDSM and Fetish
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